Wife of a Truck Driver

My husband has been working in his dream job for 14 years. Driving OTR {Over The Road} doing what he has dreamed of doing since he was old enough to speak.  This started out as a great adventure for me as I had never really left the boarders of  my home state Georgia. With a 3 year old and a new born often times we packed up and hit the road with him.  It was during these times of travel early on that I gained a new respect for truck drivers and their families.  This is a hard life and a dangerous life. Getting paid to travel the country is the way I view it.  With the birth of our third son I traveled less often.  My friends often asked, “How do yo do it?… Your husband is gone for a week at a time and you are home alone with the kids.”  My response, “It gets easier as time goes on. You learn to develop a lot of trust and patience.”

As the children get older you have to start to deal with a lot of questions from the kids of why can’t dad make it to this, or when is dad coming back.  Those moments reduce you to tears. Even though my kids have grown up with their father on the road they still hate having him leave.  On those rare occasions when we all get the chance to ride with him all they do is sleep.LMBO…yeah they sleep and eat. In between that they do enjoy themselves. Especially when their dad let’s them walk around with him while he does his PTI {Pre Trip Inspection}, or sweep out the trailer.

I did attempt to learn to drive in hopes of becoming is partner on the road, but that didn’t go so well. I was afraid to back up with the trailer.  I learned a lot but driving I knew wasn’t going to be my thing. His ability to dictate his schedule became easier when he became an O-O {Owner Operator}.  With the rise in fuel prices and the many repairs we made the adult decision not to put our dream of working for ourselves before our family and turned the truck in.  You would be surprised at how many drives will not do that. So many drivers value that truck over there families. We look forward to doing it again.

This is a challenging life, but I wouldn’t trade it for nothing.  I do admit there are times when I miss him so much it hurts to talk to him on the phone. I really takes a strong woman to live in this situation especially with children.  You have to be creative and learn to plan special away time just for the two of you.  It also helps to get the feel of what it’s like on the road at least once so you have an idea of what it’s like and not base everything from the movies,  t.v., or what you may have heard. Being sympathetic and knowing that you aren’t the only one lonely and missing him helps.  I try to make his job as a husband easier when he comes home. I make sure the grass get’s cut, the light bulbs that are out get changed stuff like that.  Even though he wants to still do things around the house as a husband should, I know those weeks he has ran hard he doesn’t need the added stress of knowing there are things around the house that need to be done.  I have some that say, “You are good because I wouldn’t do any of the things you do nor would I trust him out there like that.”  I look at it this way, we have a partnership. Our relationship has always been about compromise and not limiting one another to stereotyped roles.  I also know he would do the same for me if my job required me to be away from home like that.  We have a lot of trust in our relationship so as far as cheating is concerned that’s not something either of us are worried about.

The life we have chosen isn’t easy, but then whose is.  This is our life and we love it.

EnJoy Your Day


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